By Cortney McHargue, Gator Galaxy Staff
Dating violence is often misunderstood as a sign of love or commitment. The reality of dating violence is a serious and sometimes deadly reality for many boys or girls in their teen-age years.
Emotional abuse is when one partner mistreats or is controlling through insults, giving orders, making unrealistic demands or saying things to confuse the other. Sometimes emotional abuse can be disguised as caring, in reality it is a form of control. Like the other forms of abuse, such as emotional abuse hurts and increases over time. If you feel like you are being emotionally abused, let your partner know how you are feeling. You deserve to be treated with respect.
Rape is another form of violence; it is a crime just like the others. Rapists are 100% responsible for their actions. If you are raped or sexually assaulted, it is important to get medical treatment immediately. The effects of rape do not go away by simply trying to forget them. Even though talking to friends may help, seek professional assistance by contacting a hotline or even a therapist. Remember, rape is never the victim’s fault!
A healthy relationship involves none of the above. The relationship is based on equality, open communication, respect for boundaries and trust and commitment. Keep in mind you don’t have to be with your partner 24/7, give each other freedom to be with friends.
Don’t buy into the excuses for why they use violence such as, jealousy, alcohol, peer pressure, stress, and many more. Remember, NO ONE deserves or asks to be abused.
If you feel like you are in a harmful relationship don’t be afraid to get help, its only the first step to a brighter future. Contact Voices of Hope Hotline at (402) 475-7273.
